I understand that this is your job, that you "know" what you are doing, that you do this everyday, but I simply ask that you stop before you come into my child's room and just think. Think about everything she has been through, think about the reason you wanted to become a nurse, think about the fact that you are working in a hospital solely devoted to caring for sick children, remember to show compassion.
Think about the families represented here, the mommy's and daddy's who have had their entire world flipped upside down. Think about the Nana's and Grandaddy's who want to spoil them, think about the aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, friends all who are affected by this one life in your care.
Please realize that you are only seeing a glimpse into what she has been though as you take your shift. Please remember that when your shift ends you get to go home, while we face yet another night in a hospital.
When you are complaining about the high maintenance mom that made you double check the meds, remember that you were wrong and I could have just saved my daughters life. Think about your own child and the care you would want them to be treated with. Think about the fact that everyone makes mistakes and as her mom it's my job to double check your work before it hurts my child.
I'm not a threat to you, I am thankful for you, I respect you and always strive to speak kindly to you. I apologize when you have to go out of your way, I am always willing to hear your reasons for doing things the way you do. However, please, don't for one second mistake my position as inferior to yours. I don't feel superior, however, I am her mom.
I will do my best to protect my daughter from unnecessary pain, from fear, from sickness, from prolonged hospital stays, etc. If that means asking you to switch heart monitors as apposed to switching all of her leads, please don't act like I asked you to swim across the Atlantic. If I ask you to use a smaller piece of tape, please know, I am in no way trying to make your job harder, I'm simply doing what is best for my daughter. If I remind you to wash your hands and you roll your eyes, it makes me question you all the more.
I realize you aren't use to mom's like me. I know I keep you on your toes, but before you dismiss the way I want things done, please stop and think about how difficult life is for us right now, please realize that whenever you have been through as much as my daughter has been through, that just the mere sight of you will make her tremble, please, chose to treat me with the same respect with which I treat you. I am always willing to do whatever I can to make your job easier, but when it comes to my child, she will always come first. When I ask you not to wake her and you ignore me, it makes it harder to be kind to you, but I am.
I understand that you are in charge of many children all at once and you can't have your whole schedule revolve around my daughter, but please, use me to your advantage, I'm here to help. I also understand that sometimes the way something is done can't be changed, I will step aside after you explain why and hear out our ideas for improvement. I have no intention of leaving you to babysit my child, in fact the less you are in her room the better. I do everything I'm legally able to do to help when it comes to her care. The bottom line is, it's not about you, it's not about me, it's about my sick child.
Please, I beg you, just think before you enter her room.